Little Things That Make A Big Difference
Take a second to look at your life and how you treat yourself and how you are treating others around you. Do you wake up grumpy, or sad or already in a bad mood before the day even gets started? Do you hold the doors open for the person behind you or smile as you walk past a stranger? As you get dressed, are you picking out all the little imperfections you hate about yourself? How often do talk to your loved ones simply to say hello, ” I hope you a good day”, and just not phone or text when you need something? I can go on and on about all the little things that are easy to do to brighten someone else’s day that get lost or forgotten because we are too caught up in our own lives. We need to take a second to take a step back to see how we are treating others and ourselves.
I challenge you,
Each morning, tell yourself something you love about yourself (not physical), move past the physical body and dig a little further, “I love that I try my best to turn a bad situation into a good situation”. Next, set yourself a goal for the day, “Today, I am going to, make sure I prep my lunch for work tomorrow”. Lastly, give yourself a morning intention, “Today, if something upsets me, I am going to take a step back and respond before I react”
These three actions are all so small in the reality of our full day but it can start your day off in the right mindset. When you start your day with a good mindset with goals and intentions you become unstoppable. Each day is a new possibility to move forward, and not back. It is a new chance to accept yourself for who you are now and make an effort to what you want to do in the future. Starting small each morning will create a routine which influences the bigger picture of where you want to go.
It is important though to not loose sight of how we are treating others as well, these people may be strangers to us or our close family and friends. Yes, we are all working on ourselves which is important, we can’t get lost in our own worlds and forget about others. There are so many simple things you can do to help brighten someone else’s day when they least expect it.
At least one time a week, send a loved one or friend a message or even a letter, say you love them or miss them or appreciate all they do for you. If you have a little extra time, give them a call, see how they are doing, take a few minutes to show them that they matter. Even for the people you don’t know you can still make a difference, hold a door for someone, pay it forward in the Tim Horton’s drive through, smile as you walk past someone. The possibilities are endless for what you can do to brighten someone else’s day, the little extra effort it may take you is so worth it to see the smile on their face or their response when you know they weren’t expecting it.
I know you can do it, take a step back from your busy life and think about yourself and where you are now and where you want to go, make that little extra effort to help a friend or stranger because you never know if your simple message or action can be the difference between them having a bad day or a good day ❤
If You Don’t Have Time, You Make Time
No matter where you are in the world. No matter who you are. Wealthy, poor, famous or not, we all have the same amount of hours in the day. What you decide to do with those hours determines more about you and your character than you may realize. Do you spend your day focusing on the negative and all the things you don’t want to deal with that day? Or do you get up and feel grateful for what you have and what you are able to do? Each day is a new opportunity to try something new, to spend it doing something that you love, with people you love.
Everyone is going to have mandatory daily tasks that need to be done regardless of your choice, such as scheduled work shifts, or if you’re a parent, caring for your children. It is what you decide to do with the time in the day around these tasks. Someone at work last week had said to me, ” I wish I was a quarter as productive as you are,” and to this I say, you have the ability to be just as productive, you just need to do it! I look at my day and think of all the tasks that need to be accomplished and then it is simply a matter of prioritizing and time management. This may mean getting up a little earlier in order to get my workout in before work, and going to bed a little earlier to make this happen. Or listening to a podcast on a topic you are interested in, instead of music or the radio on your commute. We can’t let these mandatory daily tasks override our interests and hobbies. We take these mandatory tasks and work around them to make it work.
There are many simple ways to give yourself more time, and make the day go smoother. Prepping everything the night before is the biggest piece of advice I think anyone can listen to. Take out that “just one more episode,” pack your lunch, get your clothes ready, and pack your gym bag so that when you wake up the next day all you literally have to do is roll out of bed, and head out the door. The time is there, you just need to change how you use it.
Everyone has the capability to do all that they want in the day. You just need to want it enough to make time for it. We all have our hobbies and tasks we would like to happen each day. But here’s to making it happen, making the time, and not losing sight of time for ourselves.
Learning to Love Yourself
There are over 7 billion people in this world, and every single person is different from the next. Each person is capable of so much, we all have our own unique interests, personality traits and looks, yet, so many people are trying to blend in and group themselves with others. Of course we want to hang out with people who have similar interests to us, but often times our individuality can get lost within the group.
Not enough people are willing to stand out and be different from their family or friends. They are too comfortable being comfortable. When we begin to show our true individuality from the people around us, that is when I believe true confidence is shown. You are speaking about a topic you love and are fully enthusiastic about it. It doesn’t matter what people around you think. You do you, and be happy with yourself.
Many people hate on physical features on their bodies, instead of praising all that they are lucky and capable of doing. Before I started writing about the self-love portion I wanted to remind you about how unique and beautiful you are. There is no one else like you in the entire world and you should embrace that.
I too was once in a place where I hated certain physical features on myself, and it has taken much time to reach the level of confidence and love I have for my body. I understand change isn’t going to happen over night and if you take it one day at a time you too will realize how wonderful and powerful you really are! If you are in a state of mind where you think you are too big or too small, your thighs are too big, your stomach isn’t flat enough, I tell you forget all that! There is no one person on this Earth who can smile or laugh like you can, no one person who can love like you, no one!
A few little tips or tricks you can use to change your mind set is to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, and remind you how amazing you are. Personally, I am a person who enjoys reading motivational quotes and poems, I will look up a some quotes and write them on sticky notes and place them around my room or use it as my screen saver on my phone. You would be surprised how these few little words can lift you up when you are having a bad day.
An amazing poem that I read a few years ago that has stuck with me all this time is “What will Matter” by Michael Josephson. This poem reminds me one day your life is going to be over, and are you going to be spending what time you have here on this Earth worrying if your thighs are touching or are you going to be out sharing your knowledge and wisdom with the people around you? In the end, these little things aren’t going to matter so you need to be spending your time doing what you love, with the people you love. There is more to life than the little voice in your head saying you are not worthy.
“Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident. It is not a matter of circumstance but of choice. Choose to live a life that matters”
– Michael Josephson
Learning from our past
I came across this today in the notes section of my phone and it is something that I wrote a few months back, it got me thinking…
“We shouldn’t want to change what happened to us in the past because it wouldn’t have lead us to this moment, here, stronger and with a deeper understanding of our thoughts and emotions. Your past shouldn’t bring you down, it should shape you into a new and better person, someone that you want to be, someone with qualities that you look for in a person. Everyone will go through challenging times in their life where they feel bad about themselves and in those situations, we have to tell ourselves that we are stronger than this, and that we know we are worthy of something better. there is no better time than the present and you should be the one to decide how you want to live it!”
It is still so true, there really is no time like the present to choose to make a change in something or to tell yourself “I am beautiful or I am worthy”
Try not to worry too much what others think because it really doesn’t matter! Once again I will quote the amazing poem “What will matter” by Michael Josephson
“What will matter is not what you learned
but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity,
compassion, courage, or sacrifice
that enriched, empowered or encouraged others
to emulate your example.”
Choose today to take your past and use it to how you shape your future, don’t dwell on it, learn from it!
Setting Goals & Believing In Yourself
Take a second to think, Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Is where you are now in your life, where you think you should be to reach that 5 year goal? Or are you just settling, and going with the flow?
If there is something I have learned in this last year, it is that you have to take chances, and that you are going to have to work hard and put in that time and effort to get yourself to where you want to be. Setting goals for yourself gives you something to strive and work for. Without having goals, it is like you are wasting time in my opinion, and time is limited. Therefore, you should work for a purpose.
When you set a goal for yourself, that sense of accomplishment after the goal has been reached is like no other. To know that you have put all that time and effort into something for a period of time, and to see the outcome you have worked for is so rewarding. You can have long term or short term goals, but having a set deadline makes these goals more attainable. I know we have all made a goal for ourselves and bailed out early before it has been reached. I’m definitely guilty of that, but we need to think of why? Why did we bail out early before we reached it? We set it for a reason, but what was it that made us quit? Did me make an irrational, unattainable goal? Did we make a goal where we simply didn’t believe enough in ourself to reach it?
If your goal is to change a habit or lose weight or gain weight, or to reach a certain PR in the gym, these are all long term goals and are not going to happen over night. People in today’s society are to into quick fixes and not into putting in the effort to make the change necessary to reaching their goal. So they simply go with the easy way and end up failing. These examples are hard things to change, it is hard to change something that has built up for so long. There ARE going to be struggles and it may not work the first time, but you need to think about what it is that made you want to reach that goal in the beginning. As said by Michael Jordan, ” The game has its ups and downs, but you can never lose focus of your individual goals and you can’t let yourself be beat because of your lack of effort,” You have to want to change, in order to make a change.
With all this being said, sometimes you are going to have people say that you shouldn’t do something, or it is never going to happen. In most cases, if you stick to it you can prove them wrong, and you will make that change and you will be so satisfied with yourself. Not saying you need to set out to prove someone wrong but if that’s what it takes to light a fire in you, run with it! Go for it, reach that end goal, work hard and progress to the next goal.
What I am trying to say is that if you want to do something or change something, you have the power and the ability to do it. You will probably struggle along the way, but that is just part of the process. Change takes time but if you keep with it and work hard and do all that you can to make it happen, it will!